Monday, August 29, 2011

So, apparently, I'm a Smarty Pants...

Joshua and I went to Creegen's Irish Pub in NLR for date night (before we went to see WWE...my man knows that I love John Cena).  I tried a wine that was listed on their wine list.  Unusual for me because I hate wine.  If I wanted to drink rotten grape juice, I'd make it at home for cheap.  But, the way that this wine was described, it sounded pretty awesome.  So, I tried it...and it was awesome!!  I've never had wine and liked it, but I loved this one.  So, I decided to check out their website:  Middle Sister Wines

Each of their wines is a different personality...and, apparently, I'm a Smarty Pants.  Take the quiz and see which "Middle Sister" you are...

Smarty Pants


Wednesday, August 17, 2011

"Bosnia...they don't have roads, but they have Facebook."

I just recently (last night actually) saw the movie "The Social Network."  I was putting it off for a long time for 2 reasons:  1) I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.  2) I loathe Brenda Song and dread watching her in anything.  Unfortunately, she will not have the same success as David Duchvony in breaking character stereotypes (David Duchvony is such an amazing actor that when you see him in other stuff, you see him as the character he is playing and not as "Fox Mulder."  Brenda Song will always be "London Tipton."  She will always be fake and annoying).

So, I watched it and I loved it.  I loved the story being told through the depositions of the lawsuits.  I loved that there were a lot of relatively unknown faces.  I was glad to see Jesse Eisenberg finally step out of his stereotypical role of sarcastic comedy into a sarcastic drama (obviously, sarcasm is his forte and what he's great at).  I was extremely impressed by Andrew Garfield.  In my opinion, he probably deserved an Oscar nod as much as Eisenberg (I haven't seen "The Kids Are All Right," but I can't imagine Mark Ruffalo doing a better job than Garfield). 

I was totally and completely unimpressed and annoyed by Justin Timberlake as Sean Parker, the founder of Napster.  I found it really ironic that JT played Sean Parker considering that Napster probably ripped JT off at one point or another (NSync or solo).  Basically, JT played himself...hence, not really acting, but just memorizing lines.  I wonder if it Garfield himself was actually annoyed with JT and not just Garfield's character...Fincher is such an amazing director, it was actually disappointing to see him cast JT.  But, if the real Sean Parker is that annoying, then maybe Fincher cast the right guy...

Now that my inner movie critic has had her say, I must say that watching this movie makes me want to fast from FB.  The circumstances surrounding it's founding are a little tragedic.  If Eisenberg played Zuckerberg accurately then he is the definition of a jerk (and other words that are unmentionable on a blog, at least for me)...and you don't want him to succeed at anything...so, you don't want to keep using Facebook.  He was a sad, pathetic, lonely, bitter, egotisitcal, pompous nerd.  And he used Facebook to make himself ridiculously rich and, relatively, powerful.  Somewhat thumbing his nose at all those jocks and popular kids that made fun of him his whole life.  You know what...that's usually what happens.  The nerds become the success stories.  But, the nerds usually get their revenge, learn their lesson, and then become happier, more productive, contributing members of society...realizing that they are now being the jerks that they hated their whole lives.  But, Zuckerberg is still a cocky, bitter, jerk (or at least the movie portrays him that way).  One line in the movie is, "You know, Mark, you're not an asshole, but you are trying really hard to be one." 

I think the more tragedic side of the "The Social Network" is the world-wide culture it has created.  Working with college students, I can defnitely say that this generation is a group of young people and students that have more than 500 friends on Facebook, but cannot have a face-to-face conversation with someone without appearing socially awkward or having a panic attack...or complaining that such conversation has to take place. 

Facebook has created a generation that would rather sit behind a computer and have a conversation with someone than to sit across a table to have a conversation with them.  Facebook has created a generation that cannot function without Facebook, using it as their primary means of communication with others (even over phone calls and emails).  The term "Facebook Me" has become part of our everyday conversations.  Young people and students play out their joys, fears, frustrations, and relationships with other people over their Facebook status.  Someone hurts your feelings and you're mad about it, just post a snide, sarcastic remark on Facebook...because that helps reconcile the situation (she says sarcastically!).  Though, it does say something to Facebook's credit that most employers now view their potential staff's Facebook pages to "see who they really are" before hiring them.  Kudos, Facebook...you have even the corporate world making you essential, no longer just "social" media.

My point:  I cannot change the pace at which the world evolves technologically.  I will still use Facebook (and Twitter) because of their place in our culture and society...and to work with college students is to work through Facebook.  I can only pray that I am a sufficient filter for my children that they learn that their Facebook page doesn't define who you are...what you choose to put on your Facebook page does.  Unfortunately, this is what people see when they look at you (not in whole, but in part).  I want to raise my children to be able to have a face-to-face conversation with people and enjoy the company of people.  I say this as somewhat a hypocrite as I do not, normally, enjoy the company of other people (what can I say, I'm a "loner").  But, it's not an excuse...God wants us to grow and change.  I can only be responsible for my little part of the world...and that is my family.  I can only pray that I can teach my children what their priorities in the world should be and how they should conduct themselves as productive members of this American society.

Sunday, July 31, 2011

This has never happened to me before...

Last week, Ruthie and Zeke attended VBS at Joshua's parents' church every morning from 9am to 12noon. They go to AWANA there on Wednesday nights, so they were excited about it (plus, Joshua's middle brother, Shea, is one of the primary children's workers). This was great for me...alone time!
On Wednesday, I was scheduled to meet with my good friend, Amber, at Cracker Barrel. Amber suggested that we meet there which was okay with me...because Joshua's employment is "sketchy" I had just planned on not eating and enjoy our time together. I dropped the kids off at 9am at VBS and I went to Cracker Barrel. I got there that early because I wanted to use the time to sit by myself and do some "learning" on my own. So, I sat there from 9:15am to 10:30am listening to Mark Driscoll's sermon "Creation: God Makes" (from his "Doctrine" series). Because I knew that Mark Driscoll's sermons are, on average, at least an hour long, I figured I would have enough time to listen to the whole thing...undisturbed. Of course, I didn't listen to the entire sermon because I kept pausing it to take notes (4 pages front/back and only got through 1/2 of the sermon).
Amber got there at 10:30am. Even though I know that our family's financial situation is unstable, I decided to order something small/cheap to eat...I had forgotten to eat anything before I left the house...and I cannot take my meds without food (I've tried that before and learned that when my doctor said, "take it with food," it wasn't just a suggestion). We started talking and chatting...I was talking to her about a "lesson" I had learned from our time at a previous church we attended...that I believe the primary reason God had us there was for me to learn submission/obedience to my husband (and his leadership) and for Joshua to learn to accept/listen to the wise counsel of his wife. We discussed a few other things, etc.
The waitress came over and asked if we were ready for our check and we said we were. She then came back and said, "Your check has been taken care of." Amber and I looked at each other completely surprised. Basically, I was kinda freaked out: 1) #LetsBeHonest I'm slightly paranoid and it freaks me out that someone is watching me enough to make a decision whether or not they should pay for my meal. 2) I have never had this happen to me before...
A few minutes after that, this man came over to our table and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Thanks for your testimony." Then, he walked off smiling. I have no idea who this man was, have never seen him before and, honestly, I'm not really sure what he's referring to. Was he talking about me sitting there for an hour listening to a sermon and taking notes? Did he overhear me talking about what God has taught me? I don't know.
But, I did walk away with a few conclusions: 1) I'm not paranoid, there are people watching you!! (hopefully, you take that as a joke!) 2) God, supernaturally, paid for my meal knowing that even $5 helps our budget right now. 3) The fact that people are watching me, seeing my testimony, and thanking me for it makes me wonder what people are thinking when I'm not "living up to" my testimony. 4) If a stranger can see this much of my testimony in a few minutes, what kind of testimony do I have with those I am closest to (Joshua, Ruthie, Zeke)? I have heard preachers, pastors, etc. say/teach a zillion times that as a Christian people are watching you...it's up to you what they are seeing...that 'you may be the only Jesus they see," "actions speak louder than words," "walk the walk not just talk the talk." But, I have never felt those statements more strongly than I did last Wednesday.
Anyway, all that is to say that God surprises us and provides for us when we least expect it, God surprises us and allows encouragement from others as evidence that He is using us, and "we are ambassadors for Christ" (2 Cor. 5:20) and that what we do/say has an affect on those around us.
PS On that Wednesday I was wearing a short-sleeved Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles shirt and a jacket over it (because all restaurants set their thermostat at "freezing"), so he didn't see my tattoos...in case you were wondering. ;)

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Summer Reading Program

We have been blessed to live in Saline County and to have The Saline County Public Library System (a public library in Benton and Bryant) that does so much...for free!  Our library is doing a Summer Reading Program for kids and adults.  They have a program for 0-7 years old and then a program for tweens, teenagers, and adults. 

The program for 0-7 years old is a "read to your child" for so many minutes a day (whatever is the goal for your child) and then mark it on the log they give to you (Monday through Friday).  You don't have to log the titles of the books, just that you read to your child for the goal that you have set (20 minutes for Ruthie and 15 minutes for Zeke...it ends up being the same amount of time because I read to them at the same time).  At the end of the week, you take the log to the library and they receive a prize for meeting their goals for that week.  At the end of the Summer Program, if they have met the goals for every week, they get a t-shirt. 

This is has been awesome for my homeschooling "curriculum"...Part of our "school time" each day is to have "reading time" where I read to them.  The great thing is that Ruthie has been a part of the ABC Dawson Cooperative Education Preschool for the last 2 years.  At the end of the year, the Co-op has given the kids a bunch of paperback books.  So, we have used those as part of our reading time.  I have been keeping a log of each book that we read, so that we can look back at the end of the summer and see how many books we've read (and to see if we can keep from reading the same book twice).  We're also planning on checking out books from the library to read as well.  Not to mention that "Read-a-long" CD books count as well...anytime your child is being read to.  We also "count" our Bible Story time that we do as a family before bedtime as part of the reading time.  We use The Jesus Storybook Bible and it's awesome!

The library is also having a lot of events as part of the Summer Reading Program.  This last Monday (June 13) was the "kickoff" of the program.  They had a "Global Scavenger Hunt."  They gave you a "passport" and had different booths set up for different countries.  You go to each country and have your passport stamped.  It was fun, the adults participated, too (as part of the Adult Reading Program).  On the 23rd, they are having the Museum of Discovery come in to do a program.

The Adult Reading Program is different.  There is not a set Reading List.  You read whatever books you want and keep a list.  You get one point for each book you read and 3 points for each event you attend.  The goal is to get 50 points (and get a t-shirt).  That seemed a little steep to me, but you can read really short books, even some "juvenille" books, so that helps.

Anyway, this has been a good addition to our "curriculum" for our summer homeschooling.  The kids really look forward to our reading time...and to marking off their "X" on their page (and they don't even know that they get a prize at the end of the week yet!).

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

The Tools and Materials

For the actual education portion of our summer homeschooling, I am using workbooks. 

For Ruthie, the workbook is called "Summer Bridging Activities" (Pre-K to K) and I got it at Mardel for $14.99 (plus tax).  It's basically a workbook that is a review from everything she has learned in Preschool this last year.  Her teacher reminded her class that "If you don't use it, you lose it." (Which I have found is also true about foreign languages)  This portion of our day, for Ruthie anyway, goes by pretty quickly.  Her Pre-K teachers mentioned to us that she is fairly advanced and is definitely ready for kindergarten.  Right now, she is really into coloring, puzzles, and watching episodes of TV shows on PBS.  Her favorite is "Fetch with Ruff Ruffman."  She does not take a nap and really never has...not even as an infant.  But, her teachers actually got her to take naps in her Pre-K class and for the last 2 days, she has taken a small one.  And that has been nice...because mom needs a nap, too.

For Zeke, the workbook is a Preschool Workbook that I found at WalMart for $24.99, but I couldn't find a link to it.  It's mostly learning colors, shapes, etc.  He mostly scribles on the pages, but Ruthie is helping him learn the colors.  Zeke has been my challenge because he has a short attention span and is in that 3 year old phase...requiring a lot of discipline.

For our "Devotional Time," we are learning The 10 Commandments.  Each week, we go over the same ones every day (like this week, we go over 1, 2, & 3 every day).  For the month of June, that will be our Devotional time.  At night we, as a family, read a Bible story from The Jesus Storybook Bible.  We've read through it 7 times and it is awesome.

Now, you may be wondering about the P.E. portion of our day...We have outside playtime in the morning for about an hour.  They play in the backyard while I sit on the porch.  Because of my UV allergy, I can't actually stay outside in the sun with them for very long.  But, the real P.E. time is with Joshua when he gets home from work.  He takes them to ride their bike, jump on the trampoline, play on the swingset (more than in the morning), and splash around in the blow-up pool he got at WalMart for $10.  I've always been the "inside" parent and he's been the "outside" parent.  Our nextdoor neighbor came over to ask if she could have an egg for something she was making.  She said, "So, I notice that I never see you outside with your kids, it's just your husband...why aren't you ever outside with them"  I told her I was allergic to UV rays (essentially, the sun).  She said, "That's probably why you're so pale, huh?  Well, you're husband is so good with them."  Ya think?  Tact much?  I'm use to that kind of reaction.  But, I did resent the implication that I'm not as good of a parent.

The Schedule

Not only do I thrive on a schedule, but so do my kids.  When they were both home with me, we had a pretty strict schedule.  Ruthie had a set schedule in preschool and I wanted to continue that with our summer homeschooling.  So, here's the schedule:

7:30am to 8:00am        Get Dressed, Brush Teeth & Hair
                                   Make Beds, Straighten up rooms
8:00am to 9:00am        Breakfast
                                   TV Time
9:00am to 10:00am       Devotional/Scripture of the Week
                                   Daily Reading Time
10:00am to 11:00am        Backyard Playtime
11:00am to 12:00am        Lunch
                                   TV Time
12:00pm to 3:00pm              Nap Time—Zeke
                                   Quiet Time—Ruthie
(Computer, DVD, Reading, Napping)
3:00pm to 5:00pm        Snack
                                   Movie
5:00pm to 5:30pm        Playtime with Dad
5:30pm to 6:00pm        Supper
6:00pm to 7:00pm        Outside Playtime with Dad
7:00pm to 8:00pm        Bathtime
8:00pm to 8:30pm        Clean-up Rooms/Toys
8:30pm to 9:00pm        Bible Storytime
                                   Good Night Songs
9:00pm                        Bedtime

So, if it looks like a person with OCD constructed this schedule...it's because she did.  And when I say she, I mean me.  I am one of those people that likes knowing what's coming next.  Josh gets a little irritated because he is not one of those people.  But, since I'm the one home all day doing this, we do it "my way" somewhat.  So far, it has worked out and the kids have been cooperative. :)

Confirmation...

So, God has put it on our hearts (mine and Joshua's) for a while that we want to homeschool.  Actually, we have known it since before Ruthie was born, but I "fell ill" after Ruthie was born and it looked like an impossibility.  I got pretty sick and went from doctor to doctor to find a diagnosis and treatment.  After Zeke was born, I found an awesome doctor who did both.  We also dealt with some behavior problems with Ruthie.  We felt that her attending a preschool with a structured schedule would be good for her (and it was), also I was still dealing with some flare ups that are standard for autoimmune disorders. 

Though it was still a desire (and a calling, we felt) for us to homeschool, it was looking more and more like an impossibility.  But, turns out that the structure of public preschool was great for Ruthie and her behavior became better, more manageable.  Also, my Remicade infusion therapy had my flare-ups, basically under control.  We praise God for Dr. Chi and his wisdome...and endurance and insistance that the drug company pay for my Remicade treatments (because it's never been used for my condition before).

Although, we feel that Ruthie should attend kindergarten in the fall, Zeke will be at home with me for another year (for preschool).  Then he will be in kindergarten.  After that, we'll see what God has in store.  But, for now, we have some confirmation...This summer is our "test run."